情绪化表达

      吃完晚饭，姑娘在玩手机，儿子也凑过去看了，那会已是8:13分了，我提醒他，9:30我们就要上床讲故事了。于是，他自己主动说，那我现在去写作业了。

      After having dinner,the girl were playing telephone,and the son sitted next to his sister to watch.The time was 8:13.I reminded him,we would go to bed to tell stories.Then,he said on his own,"I am going to do my homework".

      他跟我要手机，看群里其它孩子的汉字作业，我想着带他复习下老师讲的三个汉字，他不同意，直接看着别的同学的作业写，瞬间就有点恼火。

      He would like my telephone to look at others' homework about characters in class group.I planned to guide him to review the three characters his teacher having taught,but he disagreed.He looked at his other classmates' homework as he wrote his characters.At that moment,I was full of furious.

      又看见茶几上乱七八糟的扑克，沙发上没有叠的衣服和乱扔的玩具，我更愤怒了。此时，爸爸和孩子们已经感觉到我的坏情绪了。

      Also,topsy-turvy pokers on the tea table,and untidied clothes,messy toys on the sofa made me more furious.At that time,dad and children have felt my bad mood.

        后来，儿子问我，其它同学用的是拼音田格，他用田字格和拼音格行吗？我答道，勉强可以吧。后来，我让他三个拼音顺序按照汉字的顺序写。他答道，我不，我就不。于是我转身就走了。几分钟后，他问了我一个问题，我带着生气的情绪回答他了。

      Later,the son asked me,other classmates using Pinyin grid jotter,could he use Pinyin jotter and grid jotter? I replied,that was reluctant.Then,I wanted him to wrote 3 Pinyin according to the sequence of characters.He answered,No!I wouldn't!So,I returned back and left.A few minutes later,he asked me one question,I angrily replied him.

      最后，他写完作业，拿过来给我检查，我看见他整齐的作业，和他流利的回答我问得问题，我的心情又好多了。

      At last,he took homework so that I could inspect it after having done  homework.My mood become peaceful again.

    认清真相（觉察力）:

    Distinguish the truth:

      一、关于孩子

          With respect to child

          1.孩子写总比不写强；

          1.Child writing is better than not writing.

          2.孩子不跟我一起复习3个汉字，可能是:（1）关系不到位，孩子心里有对抗；

          2.The child wasn't willing to review 3 characters with me,may be:

        (1)The relationship is not well,and the child is rival in his heart.

      （2）学习习惯不好，总想快点写完玩。

        (2) Studying habit is not well,he wants to finish it quickly.

      根据我对孩子的分析和了解，应该是第二个原因。

      According to my analysis and knowing,it is probably the second season.

      针对这个问题，我的解决办法是:放了学提前跟孩子说清楚，把玩的时间和做作业的时间安排好，有计划的实施。

      As for this question,my solution is:I will express clearly to the child,arranging playing  and doing homework time,carrying it out systematically.

院长说，有规划的人生是航程，没有规划的人生是流浪。

The dean said,the systematic life is sailing,no planned life is vagrancy.

      二、关于我自己

        With respect to me

        1.因为原生家庭带的潜意识，看见家里乱糟糟，就莫名的烦躁、愤怒，心中升起的这股力量，无法阻挡。

        1.As result of subconscious from original family,seeing untidy and mess things I feel fretful,furious.This strand strength is not prevented.

        我的应对方式:接纳它，允许它的存在。

      My method:accept it,and permit its existence.

        2.孩子不跟我一起复习汉字。

      2.The child doesn't review characters with me.

        我的应对方式:也许你有你的考虑，但妈妈是妈妈，该说的话，妈妈得给你说到位，复习能加深你对知识的印象和理解。

      My method:Maybe you have your own ideas,but mom is mom.The words I need to say mom has to tell you.Reviewing can strengthen your image and understanding about knowledges.

      3.孩子不按我的想法来，我就生气，作业写好了，我就高兴，会让孩子有我在乎的是作业而不是他这个人的想法，这一点我做的很不好。

      3.The child didn't abide by my thought,I was angry.Homework finished,I got pleased.It will make the son have a impertinent image that I care about study rather than him the person.I was not good at it.